Mom Life: Ever Experienced Daily Burnout?

Have you ever felt this? After a morning filled with:

  • kids squabbling
  • some semblance of chores and house cleaning
  • schooling done (even if imperfectly!)
  • toddler meltdowns
  • bottoms wiped
  • bellies filled

it is easy to get to mid-afternoon and to SIMPLY. FEEL. DONE. I have most definitely felt like this before, and yes, sometimes daily, especially when all my kids were younger.

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Being a mom is hard work. There’s no two ways about it: simply put, it’s really very challenging work. Heart, body, mind, soul– these kids demand it all. They are worth it, but let’s not minimize the cost: motherhood is tiring work.

We all have limits, and it’s OK to be dust. Frail. Feeble. Weak. Needy. That’s part of what it means to be human.

At the same time, it helps me to find little ways to tank up and restore joy and sanity, purposefully, in hard seasons.

#1- DO SOMETHING FOR SHORT-TERM SANITY & JOY

For me at various times that has looked like:

  • epsom salt baths while my husband does bedtime,
  • heading up to my room for Bible study and journaling time when he gets home,
  • sit on the sunny porch with a tall glass of iced tea and a good book (no devices!),
  • telling the kids to all go get a “quiet toy” (pattern blocks, potato heads, individual game, coloring, etc… something NOT messy and NOT noisy) while I do something like listen to an audiobook, or put on an audio Bible.
  • “EVERYONE GO POTTY & GET YOUR SHOES ON!!” (and go for a walk!)
  • occasionally having “break weeks” (like a Spring Break) where we pull out some random toyset (for us that is our massive Thomas train bin) that they’ll play with for a good few days or a week while I veg out, tank up, do restorative things, work outside in the garden… whatever it is that refuels me.

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#2- DO SOMETHING FOR LONG-TERM SANITY & JOY

Even in the most difficult seasons of life, God has helped me find ways to make things cheerier, or to make things work better, long-term, in our home and life–

  • chalkboards with needed verse reminders on them;
  • contemplate a big-picture strategy like productive free time and decide how to implement it
  • embroidered banners with a word or phrase like “REJOICE” or “SMILE” or “Love One Another; (or longer ones, like the 1 Corinthians 13 love passage),
  • hanging up some lavender to dry so the smell can bring some instant relaxation,
  • listen to a sermon on an issue or area of life that’s been plaguing me. No one is going to zap me & it’s worthwhile to put effort into working through real challenges. Even though it takes humility and hard work, it’s valuable to process through areas like bitterness, forgiveness, trusting God, or seeking someone else’s forgiveness. Sometimes, the reason why we feel overwhelmed is because we’re emotionally over-tired and need to put in the effort to biblically work through an area of sin or hurt.

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We can work– even in the heaviest and hardest seasons of motherhood– to find the ways that God has given us grace enough to rejoice, to rest, to honor Him with our minds and hearts and attitudes.

 

IN THE COMMENTS, PLEASE SHARE: How do YOU reclaim joy and sanity at times when you are tempted toward DAILY burnout?

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Jess Connell

Jesus-follower, Happy wife, Mom of 8 neat people. Former world-traveler, now settled in Washington. Host of Mom On Purpose podcast (momonpurpose.com). I write and wrangle kids.

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1 Response

  1. Maritza says:

    Yes yes, We clean the main areas (living/dinng room & kitchen) in the house b4 school, if not done 5pm yesterday..I get the kitchen pots done that wasnt in the dw.. and pack away some things or throw away all takes a bit of time and then I nurse our babe girl outside(dont care if neighbours peep lol) we have walls -while kids play.. we interact and just chill and then go on with school or we clean and then they do their teeth and hair while I nurse or snuggle after cleaning and brush little R’s teeth inbetween.. hard stops and sometimes I pray for help 😉 I found audio always a pick up and blessing nowadays its noise to me even with earphones ;? Maybe layer again.. reading is so much better inbedded in my heart.. like you said No devices. 😉 Except I love my kindle *plain*… Dh has said I need a few min to myself for sanity.. lol.. I do actually love being around my kids.. the prob is the mess and the time and energy to clean .. then the control monster comes out .. sheesh.. So much more to say but I think an embroidary ring is in order cause I really miss hand work.. and crotcheting… Now dd can learn too….. 😉 I stop to nurse and rest why not for handywork? Anyway. with a baby and othe kiddos hs and so forth live is quite busy , sometimes anxiety tricken and overwellming … but a blessing in all.. but we learn & grow so much more & closer to God that the future purpose filled intentionally living is woth is for eternity.. a unperfect mom striving for a perfect eternity… here in South Africa

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