Here’s What I Learned Watching My Friend Be “Busy At Home”
Almost 6 years ago, we decided to stay in America, after (almost) 6 years of living abroad. I flew to Istanbul, Turkey (our former home) to sort, sell, and pack our belongings there. While there, I stayed a week in our friends’ home, observing her normal household routines. Mother of four kids (then, ranging from 8 to 20 years old), former homeschooling mom, sometimes classroom teacher, crazy-busy woman that she is, her house stays, more or less, tidy.
Let me share with you some of my observations as I watched a woman who, like Proverbs 31 and Titus 2, is “busy at home”:
***Please, if you have a newborn, or a couple of preschoolers in the house, or if you are homeschooling, keep in mind that her youngest child is 8 & that all of her children are in school 8+ hours a week, 5 days a week. These are observations about HER life, not prescriptions for YOURS. ***
#1- SHE USES MONDAY AS A “RESET” DAY
After busy weekends darting here and there, attending church, cooking meals, carting kids back and forth to games and what not, she said she pretty much stays busy from the time the kids head off for school on Monday (around 7/7:30) until they get home from school. She gets everything completely back in order… from the entryway with jackets, shoes, random paperwork, etc., to bedrooms. The goal is to get everything back into a tidy, efficient, ready-to-use position.
#2- TWO LOADS OF LAUNDRY A DAY
She strives for two loads of laundry completely finished each day, but at least requires herself to do one load of laundry a day. She folds them directly out of the dryer into baskets to avoid wrinkling.
#3- USE DEVICES TO MAKE HOUSEHOLD DUTIES MORE PLEASANT
She irons one day a week. As items that need to be ironed are washed throughout the week, she adds them to the ironing basket until that appointed day rolls around. She said she likes to pick something fun to watch so that ironing isn’t so dreadful.
#4- CLEAN THE BATHROOM, FULLY, OFTEN
She fully cleans the bathroom- top to bottom- twice a week. I always noticed that her bathrooms looked like new, even 5-6+ years into living in the apartment. Now I know why. She works hard at it. She wipes down every surface multiple times and does not tolerate “build up” of gunk, mildew, or problem cleaning areas. She gets down to the nitty gritty (from baseboards to ceilings) and deals with it 2x a week so that it never REALLY gets horribly bad. And because she keeps it up, each cleaning really doesn’t take very long.
#5- CLEAN YOUR DISHES AS YOU GO/DON’T COOK IN A DIRTY KITCHEN
She keeps up her dishes, and does not begin cooking a meal in a dirty kitchen. Now, granted, she has limited counter space & is an excellent cook so for her, this is particularly important. But it’s a good standard. I have always been a “dishes strewn across the counter” gal & it’s a completely different feel in her kitchen. She told me she just likes to start from a fresh position when she begins a meal.
#6- USE YOUR LITTLE MOMENTS TO KEEP THINGS TIDY
She used free moments strategically. Multiple times a day, in 2-3 minute blocks here or there, I saw her wiping down the sink area, just to keep things tidy. I joked with her about her obsessive-compulsive cleaning habits, but in all seriousness, her kitchen stayed tidy & ready for use. And it was directly tied to her habits of taking advantage of the spare moments.
#7- CHOOSE TO HAVE A DEFAULT POSTURE OF BUSYNESS, NOT IDLENESS
I noticed throughout the week that her default “position” was at the kitchen sink. This may be the most important of all… not that we all stand around in our kitchens all day… but that her position was one that put her in a ready position to field meals, cleaning, and the family calendar. Did you ever play baseball or softball? “Get into position!” meant to hustle to the spot where you would be most advantageously used for the position you were playing. THAT is what I saw in my friend Kelly. She was “in position” for much of the day, doing dishes, preparing treats for her gluten-free son, checking out the calendar to be ready for what was coming, browsing a cookbook for something tasty that night, etc. Her default position was one of busyness, not idleness.
Do you feel convicted yet? I do!
It’s convicting to think how much that last item on the list could not be used to describe my life. Again, hear me: I’m not saying we should all be on standing with two feet on our kitchen mats all day… but it causes me to ask: is my default position one of joyfully attacking the work that falls under my responsibility? Or do I put it off & delay with plenty of online or entertainment distractions?
This reminds me of something my friend Bethany once asked:
If my husband worked as hard as I do every day, would anyone want to hire him? Would we have a paycheck coming in if he worked with the same level of effort and diligence as I do?
Anyway, I hope these observations have been helpful for you.
My friend Kelly is a stand-up woman, really a gem, and she is now about 30+ years into marriage & 25 years into parenting. She has more “free” time than some of us may have… but she is an example to us as a godly woman who truly is a “keeper” of her home. Because of her, their home runs smoothly and efficiently, and she is ready for company at almost any moment (and they host people–even large groups–often!). Their home is tidy and enjoyable to visit. I appreciate her example in my life, and I hope it’s been a blessing to you to read these observations about her life.
If you’d like to hear more from inspiring women, be sure to check out my podcast– Mom On Purpose— where I interview Christian moms. Each week’s episode is designed to equip you to live intentionally as a mom, right there in your own home.
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