Are You Contributing to a Culture of Lust?
Christian woman, you may not even realize it, but are you pornifying our culture?
Perhaps you say “no”–
- “I hate even the idea of porn!”
- “I don’t invite men to look at me with lust.”
- “I would never do that!”
BUT– TAKE A FIELD TRIP THROUGH YOUR PHOTOS
Go right now to the photos you have publicly posted of yourself.
Facebook profiles. Instagram. Wherever you do that. Take a moment to browse through those photos.
Then come back.
Having done that, let me ask: which of these 2 lists are a more accurate description of the public photos of YOU?
- Sometimes unflattering? (and not in a cutesy/funky way)
- Featuring you with other people?
- Taken by other people?
- How you really look in real life?
OR, are they:
- Almost all selfies?
- Taken from a particular angle to flatter and conceal?
- Hiding what you actually look like?
- Featuring particular parts or angles of your body (pouty lips, a “killer” jawline, elongated eyelashes, etc.)?
- Exposing more than should be exposed to someone not your husband (bra straps, a little bit of cleavage, lacey PJs).
- Unusually close to your face?
- Meant to stir up desire in others?
Many Christian women, who I think would say they hate porn, take pictures that imitate its form.
Sultry lips, smoldering eyes, a serious look, in a dark room, alone with a camera… whatever your female friends say in their comments on the photo, these profile pictures go beyond “pretty.” Through the eyes and atmosphere of the photo, they invite inappropriate attention in a way that resembles lusty photos, rather than reflecting a godly spirit.
Let me ask it a different way:
- Would you want _____________ to regularly look at images of women that are stylistically similar to yours?
Insert the following people in that ^^^^ blank:
- your grandpa,
- your (future or current) husband,
- your (future or current) 13-year-old son,
- your pastor.
If your photos are more like the second list than the first, or if you would not want your grandpa/husband/son/pastor to look at photos like yours, then you are contributing to the lustful culture you say you dislike.
If you want to fight a porn culture, be a visually upright woman.
- Wear and choose your clothes in such a way that GOD gets the glory– not you, not your body, not your great fashion taste– GOD.
- Keep the alluring parts of your body for your husband’s eyes alone.
- Use makeup (if at all) in a way that honors God’s design, rather than concealing and confusing what He made.
- When taking pictures of people (including you!), take pictures that highlight God’s creative beauty in the same realistic way a beautiful field of flowers does– without fakery.
Fight porn culture by being a woman who reclaims BEAUTY by refusing to fake yourself up.
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